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10 Ways to be Positive and Happy Every Day

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Are you a negative person who brings people down or do you approach every single day with happiness and optimism?  I realize that we can’t all be Miss Suzy Sunshine all day, every day. But what would your life look like if you took the initiative to learn how to be positive and happy from this point forward?  Can you see what a difference that would make?

“Positive thinking is more than just a tagline. It changes the way we behave. And I firmly believe that when I am positive, it not only makes me better, but it also makes those around me better.”  Harvey Mackay

When you decide how to be positive and happy, your whole perspective changes.  As a result, so does your story. When something bad happens, your choice in how you respond to that event will determine so much.  Even the end result will be different if you choose an optimistic outlook.  

For instance, when I became ill, I could have been negative and grumpy towards everyone around me. I believe that approach would have resulted in negative caregivers and negativity from the people I worked with.  Whereas, working to do my best and putting a smile on my face, regardless of the situation, resulted in positive therapy results and I believe, faster healing. Compare that mindset to someone that you know or an experience you’ve had with a negative perspective and check my theory.  Am I right? I believe attitude makes all the difference.

10 ideas for how to be positive and happy

In my experience, I have found that you can learn how to be positive and happy by incorporating the following ideas into your daily living.  Simply by changing even one of these habits and you’ll begin the switch to optimism in no time. But make them all a part of your daily routine and you’re on your way to finding joy in the journey with a wonderfully optimistic and joy-filled life.  

Optimism is the most important human trait, because it allows us to evolve our ideas, to improve our situation, and to hope for a better tomorrow.”  Seth Godin

1.  Lead with an attitude of gratitude

Grateful people are happy people.  We can have the biggest house, the fanciest car, travel the world and be super famous and be miserable.  On the other hand, we could be living in a box with no food to eat and be one of the happiest people around.  It all depends on your perspective.  

We are surrounded by blessings, everywhere you look.  What’s important is that you acknowledge those blessings and don’t take them for granted.  Every day, find something to be thankful for. I’m sure that it wouldn’t be too hard to find 5 or 10 things daily.  A gratitude journal is a great place to keep track of your blessings. When you stop and give thanks to God and acknowledge just how blessed that you really are, you’ll realize that happiness starts with gratitudeIf you need some ideas for gratitude prompts,  check out Gratitude from A to Z: Things to be Thankful for.  I also have a really great 40-day Gratitude Calendar that you can snag right here to help you along.

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2.  Find deeper joy in the Lord

How is your relationship with God?  Have you accepted Jesus as your Savior?  When you are comforted by a personal relationship with the Lord,  you have peace in your heart that passes all understanding. That kind of peace brings such a joy to the depths of your soul.  How do you deepen that relationship? You grow it through prayer and Bible study. Learn what the Lord wants you to know and then talk to Him about it.

Romans 12:12 KJV “Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;”

There’s a big difference between joy and happiness.  Happiness can easily be influenced by external things, like jobs, houses and the weather.  Whereas joy, which can only come from Jesus, is there regardless of your circumstances. I had joy from my Savior before they amputated my hands and feet, and I still have joy after that life-altering event.  The best way to increase your joy is to grow your faith through these daily habits. From there, you will have joy unspeakable and full of glory.

3.  Practice acts of kindness

Random acts of kindness are great ways to share blessings with others on a sporadic basis.  But what about sharing kindness to everyone, everywhere and that includes kindness to yourself.  As Christians, it’s our job to live like Christ, and love on everybody. Be kind to the customer service rep who’s having a bad day.  Offer to help where help is needed. Call a friend who is not feeling well. Be the person who can be counted on in times of crisis.  

Showing kindness triggers happiness.  Doesn’t it make you feel good to do something nice for someone else?  There are so many benefits to kindness that include the opportunity to help others, it makes you feel good and it sets a great example for your kids.  I always felt wonderful, still do, when one of my kids shows an act of kindness toward someone else. I’m not talking about grand gestures here.  Even simple things such as smiling at someone, complimenting them or holding the door open.  

4.  Decide to be positive and happy

That’s right friends, if you’re wondering how to be positive and happy, make a decision.  It’s a choice! Every day we make choices. What do I wear? Do I want another cup of coffee?  Will I let that person who cut me off put me in a bad mood? Please tell me that you won’t let that happen.  Don’t let someone else’s actions have so much influence over your mood. Choose to blow it off, smile at them (and not that smirky smile either), wave, say a prayer for them and go on to have a great day. Choose happiness and positivity!

“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.” Abraham Lincoln

Additionally, by choosing optimism, if something bad happens, you’re in a much better position for coping.  You can move on with a smile when you’ve been given bad news. I always like to look for the blessing. What is the silver lining in the dark cloud?  What am I supposed to learn from this? Tough questions, I know. But making the choice to see how to be positive and happy, you’ll have a better result.

“Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them.” Steve Maraboli

5.  When exposed to negative thinking, opt out

Do you ever find yourself in a conversation with someone who is super negative?   What do you do? I try to interject positive thoughts and ideas. When that doesn’t work, I end the conversation and move on.  When you’re on a mission for happiness, any type of negativity can bring you down, so stay away from it. If you cannot find the good in a situation, then you have to get rid of the negativity in your life, as much as you can.  Bless and release toxic people and situations. I want to be a positive influence in the lives of those people. But if I can’t, then bless and release.

“Don’t hang with negative people. They will pull you down with them. Instead, invite them into your light and together you will both shine strong.”  L.F. Young

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6.  Talk the talk and walk the walk

What does that mean?  It means use positive language, act happy, smile and be the optimistic, happy person that you want to be.  Set a great example of how to be positive and happy for others. You’ve heard the saying, fake it until you make it.  Well, sometimes you need to do that. Put that smile on your face as you head out the door whether you’re in the mood for it or not.  Eventually, that smile will kick in and you’ll start to believe it.  

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” Winston Churchill

7.  Give back 

Helping others boosts our spirits every single time.  Look for opportunities to volunteer your time. When you spread your love around, you are sharing joy and happiness.  You may also find circumstances that are far bigger than what you’re going through. By giving back, you’ll have an opportunity to bless that person.  You could be just what someone needed as inspiration for that day. What does the Bible tell us about giving?  It says to do it not grudgingly, but with a cheerful heart.

2 Corinthians 9:6-8 KJV “But this I say, He which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully.  Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound toward you; that ye, always having all sufficiency in all things, may abound to every good work:”

8.  Start your day in a positive way

It’s always best to lead with your best.  What is your best way to start the day that will put you in the happiness and optimistic mindset?  For me, cleaning out my inbox, coffee, and one-on-on time with the Lord gets me going every time. How can you not find happiness after talking to Jesus and spending time in His Word?  The Holy Bible is God’s instruction manual. If you don’t know what’s in there, you’ll never understand how to successfully play the game of life by God’s rules. 

Personally, I want to follow God’s will for my life.  But first, I have to know what He wants from me. These 15 ways will help you get closer to God spiritually.  Start your day with the Lord, and you will find that He will show you how to be positive and happy all day long.

9.  Give your worries over to God

Let’s face it, we all have things that we worry about.  Even though the Bible tells us to cast our cares on the Lord.

Philippians 4:6-7 KJV “Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.  And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

Sometimes it’s hard to let things go.  Now that our kids are all in their 20’s and living on their own, I really struggle with letting go.  I have to trust that we raised them right and that they will make decisions that are right and glorify God.  I always say that parenting adults is so much harder than parenting a toddler or even a teenager. Because you can’t tell them what to do anymore.  It’s time to give it over to God and have some faith. But I promise you that letting go and giving your worries to God will make for more happiness.  The trick is really letting go and not trying to hang on, while telling yourself that God’s got this. But it’s a necessary step in growing your happiness.  You can do it and so can I. 

10.  Live simply!

Living simply means to let go of all of the baggage, and unnecessary activities that weigh you down.  Do you really need to be that busy? Why do your kids need to be in every single activity that’s offered? What if you didn’t have all of the distractions and toys that life has to offer?  If there’s no white space or margin on your calendar then something has to give, my friend. My greatest joys always came from down time spent with my family. They still do.  

Happiness comes from hanging out and letting go.  Enjoy the simple things. Stop and smell the roses, enjoy ice cream by the lake, lay on a blanket and count the stars or compare the shapes of clouds.  You understand what I mean, don’t you? How much happiness can you find by running from one activity to the next or buying a bigger, better car every three years, just to keep up with the Joneses?  Here are some basic principles for living a simple life that I know you’ll enjoy. Slow down, my friend and find your happiness! 

Well, there you have it!  I’ve just given you 10 ways to show you how to be positive and happy.  Of course there are many more, but this is a start. I would love to hear your other ideas for happiness and optimism.  What works best for you? Do you think you’re generally an optimistic person? Why or why not? You can probably tell which way I lean.  Now it’s time to hear from you. Please leave your thoughts and ideas in the comments below.  love wendy, logo signature

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  1. Wendy, I really love what you said about opting out of negative thinking! I am a recovering pessimist LOL. I have spent a great deal of time in therapy to help retrain my negative thought process, and it is so very true that the internal thought dialogue affects our happiness and emotional wellbeing so much more than we realize!

    1. Erin, How thankful I am that you have recovered from your pessimism! It’s so true that it’s all a choice and your internal dialogue need to stay focused. Great job, sister! You’re one of the most encouraging people I know!

  2. These are wonderful tips! So much wisdom and power in so many of these choices! I have especially found truth in the power of finding our joy in the Lord, giving back, and living simply! Such overlooked ways to CHOOSE happiness! Thanks Wendy!

    1. Thanks so much, Cherith! Those are great and simple ways to choose happiness. If only more people would do the same.

  3. Thank you, Wendy for this post! And thank you for adding my post in here! I find myself needing to do two things: 1 – live more simply and declutter my schedule and 2 – trying to figure out how to deal with living with a constantly negative person! Thank you for all of your tips on this topic. Much appreciated, sister!

    1. Hey Stacey, I think that both of those can be challenging. But thankfully, by the wonderful grace of God, we can get the job done. Spread positive encouragement every chance you get, choose only the most necessary activities and above all, pray. I’ll pray for you!

    1. I appreciate that, Fleda! I believe that encouragement is so important and we should uplift and spread positivity every chance we get.

  4. great reminder! living simply is definitely the key to happiness and positivity for me. overthinking things that are out of my control is no good!

    1. Hi Sharon! Yes, living simply is a great help to happiness. I also have a tendency to overthink things. When I do that, I need to hand my burdens over to the Lord. He is always faithful to take that burden away.

  5. I love your point about gratitude and happiness is a choice. Just printed a copy of this to keep on my desk for bad days at work!

  6. I always lead with an attitude of gratitude. Also, I make sure that I am an optimistic thinker. I always make sure that I am positive all the time. No negativities please!

    1. Hey Katrina, I believe that happiness is a choice. Sure, we have days where it can be a struggle, but with the right activities in place, we can absolutely get there.

  7. Oh I agree to all these.. Being a person with gratitude and surrendering it all to God can’t solve all the problems but it can lessen the stress that causes overthinking. And overthinking is not fun. Thanks for all the tips.. I will definitely keep this in mind

    1. So true, Surekha. Surrendering to God definately lessens the stress. How could we possibly face life without God?

  8. Starting my day in a positive way is a way that I help stay positive, too! I begin my clearing my mind, thinking of as many positive thoughts as I can, and THEN getting out of bed and starting my regular day.

    1. Thanks, Sara. Yes, gratitude journaling is a great way to recognize those things that are blessings in your life. That’s a great activity.

    1. Thank you Ntensibe, I completely agree. We all know those people who approach things from a negative perspective. I, personally would rather have a positive and happy life than be a drain on others. Wouldn’t you?

  9. I truly am a believer that positive attitude and gratefulness helps us to heal faster, not just physically but in our soul. Having a positive attitude helps us to be teachable too. Thank you for all your positive posts Wendy! You are such a blessing! ❤

    1. Thanks so much, Donna. I agree. Negativity can definately impact the healing process. So why not live with optimism and gratitude?

    1. Yes, Nicole! Having a positive outlook makes a huge difference, not only in your happiness, but in attracting positive friends.

  10. You are such an inspiration Wendy. These ideas will definitely inspire us to joy throughout our day to day lives. Thank you for always having such an amazing perspective❤️

  11. These are all wonderful ideas for cultivating gratitude in our lives, Wendy! It truly is something we must be intentional about or it won’t keep us in the thankful mindset the Lord expects and desires for us. I’m like you, I must begin my day with the Lord. When that’s out of place, I always drift toward the negative. Thanks for sharing! I’ve pinned!

    1. Thanks so much, Beth! Having a plan to meet with the Lord daily is definately a good plan to live a positive and happy life.

  12. I love number 6 Wendy- I have to physically do something a lot of times to get myself out of a funk. It really does help to just do something positive!

    1. I agree, Danell. Fake it until you make it really does work. We don’t always feel like smiling. But by putting a smile on our faces, if you see that affects another person, you’ll really feel the difference.

  13. There is always something to be grateful for. Gratefulness brings more to be grateful for. Great post! We serve a great God that gave us way more than we deserve and that alone is a great reason to be grateful.

    1. Thank you, Carolina. You hit the nail on the head. Serving our great God gives us so much to be thankful for. It’s so important to acknowledge that!

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